Something is wrong, but what?
Sometimes you don’t know what’s wrong … you just know something is wrong. Sometimes you feel stuck or lost in transition. Behaviours and thoughts that were helpful may have become unhelpful and harmful. Maybe you are tired of feeling unlovable, disconnected, incompetent, alone, anxious or depressed. You may be living with a problem. But you are not the problem.
Building momentum, one step at a time
I believe change is about building forward momentum, one step at a time, to tackle a challenge … much like climbing a mountain where you have gear and the unknown ahead of you. There is only so much planning you can do when facing the unknown. If you have help tackling that challenge in safety, like a guide or an anchor, even when you find yourself on shaky ground and are facing insecure footholds, deep crevasses and maybe difficulty breathing, you can find yourself on the other side of that challenge. That doesn’t mean it is easy to head into the valley with the memories of everything you learned on the upward journey. In fact, those memories may fade – your skills, knowledge, resources and capabilities may slip from your mind.
Safe, collaborative, empathetic and respectful
In therapy, I will help you tackle your challenges in a safe, collaborative, empathetic and respectful environment. This helps give you the space you need to work towards exploring and deepening those skills, knowledge, resources and capabilities – so you can learn how to get on the other side of your challenges.
Whether in person, by phone, by video or chat, you can get that support you need
When you can’t make it into the office, we can speak by phone, video or chat message using a service called OnCall Health – it is like Skype but it is geared towards mental health professionals and their clients.
Depression, anxiety and other stressors
My clients typically face one or more internal and external stressors or challenges like: depression, anxiety, emotional distres, self-esteem/self-worth, relationships, communication difficulties, perfectionism, academic and work-related concerns, life transitions, career transitions, loss, stress, coping, job and workplace stress and trauma.
“… the person is not the problem.” Karen Young
University students, law students and lawyers
I often work with university students, law students, articling students and lawyers. They want to be connected, competent and free to act true to their values so they can break out of their cycle of stress and unhappiness. University students, law students and lawyers face staggering levels of stress and unhappiness on a daily basis. The reasons are vast because:
- Competition is fierce and inescapable. They compete for grades, journal editor positions, clerkships, clinical placements, on campus interviews, networking connections, jobs, billable hours, better quality files, clients, juniors and leadership opportunities … and more.
- They live in fear that somebody will discover they missed something or failed to understand or solve something at all or quickly enough.
- Their ability to pay down their student debt, their mortgage and their renovation debts and set the stage for their whole life depends on exceeding performance expectations at the better job – not to mention expectations at home.
- They feel disconnected from themselves and others.
- It can be difficult to focus, set and meet deadlines, to delegate and build relationships with clients and colleagues alike, to find quality work and turn down work, to manage difficult people and respect people, to lead, to develop professionally or personally or to be free to think, feel or do anything but work.
- They feel controlled by colleagues and clients.
- They worry they are running out of time and missing out on the life they wish they could have.
“…What happens is of little significance compared with the stories we tell ourselves about what happens.” – Rabih Alameddine